Goodbye Cuddly – The end of an era


That little orange square in Maya’s hand is her cuddly. It’s a comforter we got free with Hipp baby food that’s been her almost constant companion since she was six months old. After 4 years of use, cuddly was looking more than a little worse for wear – his once bright orange had faded to a muddy beige and he’d been sewn up so many times, he was only half the size he once was. It didn’t make Maya love him any less.

Every night she’s needed cuddly to go to sleep. We’ve had to bring him with us everywhere as if she asks for him and we didn’t have him, we’d be met with unstoppable tears. Cuddly was an instant way of calming her down if she was upset – I’d hand him to her and she’d instantly start sucking her thumb and be quiet. You’re probably guessing where this story is heading and in my defence, I did buy some replacement cuddlies when Maya was still a baby. In fact she insisted on having two at once for a while, until one was stolen by a monkey. As she got older she refused them and would throw them away angrily if we tried to offer her a replacement.

The photo at the top shows you how sad Maya got just when cuddly got wet at the beach so you can imagine how she must feel now that he’s vanished completely.

Yes cuddly is with us no longer and I wasn’t sure how she was going to cope when this day came. I still don’t know what happened – in a hurry to leave to stay overnight at her grandparents I shoved him in the bag. Once we arrived I don’t remember if I gave him to Maya or not but we couldn’t find him and had to go to sleep without him for the first time. Maya was inconsolable but I still had hopes he’d turn up – he’s been lost a million times before and usually Maya’s tucked him away in the fridge or under a stone in the temple and we eventually find him. Not this time. He wasn’t at home when we returned and he hasn’t been found since.

I read Maya the story of Dogger, in which a little boy loses his favourite toy but they find him again in the end. I suggested that maybe cuddly was off having an adventure and he’d turn up when he was ready. It’s been more than a little heartbreaking watching Maya deal with this – it’s almost as if someone has died. She even said to me the next day, “Mummy, I know where cuddly is – he’s in the sky”.

It’s been two weeks now and I’m proud of her for coping so well and sleeping without her best friend every night with the minimum amount of fuss and tears. It’s so very sad – she still asks me every day if I’ve found him. So I thought I’d compile a little selection of photos of cuddly throughout the years – as Maya’s grown up he’s been her constant companion. Goodbye cuddly, you were a good friend :(

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Sponsored Post: World Baking Day – Making The World’s Happiest Cake!


It’s World Baking day today! Who are you baking for? We were successful in making the World’s Happiest Cake (recipe in my earlier post).

Maya loves to bake and was more than keen to help out with mixing, chopping, grating and squeezing. The cake baked while she napped and I iced it. She was then thrilled to present papa with a slice of cake that she’d made “all by herself”.

Kiran lost interest right around the mixing part but was happy to race his cars around the mixing bowl and we had a lovely morning baking instead of watching cartoons on Youtube, which is becoming a far too frequent occurrence!

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What makes this the World’s Happiest Cake? It certainly put a smile on Made’s face to come home to freshly baked cake made by his little girl! (Recipe was created by Blue Band!)

Whatever you make, baking is a therapeutic activity – the repetitive actions of mixing and focusing on measuring can help your mind to relax and de-stress. Baking also gives you a great sense of accomplishment and if you bake for someone else you get an extra happy boost from doing something nice for another person.

World Baking Day is a great opportunity to get a bit of stress relief from everyday life as well as spending some quality time with your family and doing something special for a loved one.

Who are you baking for? Don’t forget to share with hashtag #worldbakingday, check out the WBD website and follow along on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Google+ and Pinterest

This post sponsored by Blue Band for World Baking Day but all thoughts are my own :)

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Kiran is 3!


Yes I know I have been a sorry excuse for a blogger lately. I really don’t have any excuse except to say my life is totally consumed with childcare and cleaning right now and my energy levels are at an all time low so work, blogging and anything else don’t get much time.

Anyway 3 months late is better than never right? So here are some photos from Kiran’s third birthday. I decided not to have a party and instead we took a day trip to the zoo. Kiran got a remote control car and a buzz lightyear and was pretty thrilled about it.

Kiran at 3 is just about the sweetest thing ever. He’s only really started talking properly in the last 6months – a year and comes out with the funniest things. He says “some prize” instead of “surprise” and “dis gusting” instead of “discusting” (dis gusting, dis not gusting). He is obsessed with Cars and Lightning McQueen (like a queen), charging around shouting “STUPID MAN!” and will happily sit in the dirt with his cars playing and singing by himself for hours.

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Sponsored Post: Baking with kids

Baking is an activity that I’ve only recently started getting back into. I used to bake quite a few cakes and biscuits when I lived in the UK (blame my sweet tooth for that) but after not having an oven for years after moving to Bali, I’d not baked anything in a long time.

I finally got around to buying a little mini oven when we moved house and I’m pleased to say it’s been put to very good use. I bake my own bread every few days, make pizzas including dough from scratch and cakes of course, including Maya’s last birthday cake.

Baking isn’t just about the bread or cake you get at the end of it – the process is half the fun and it’s something I love to share with my kids. Baking is such a great activity for kids of all ages and it never gets boring. Maya’s favourite dinner at the moment is home-made pizza and she loves mixing the ingredients together and kneading the dough. Making biscuits is another favourite activity for both kids and they get so excited to hear the “ping!” of the oven when the treats are ready for eating.

I used to think baking bread was hard before I tried it but now I know how easy it is and how much more delicious homemade bread is than store bought, it’s a regular activity in our house.

World Baking Day is coming up on the 17th of May and this is a great opportunity to get started with baking with your kids.

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I think we’re going to have a go at making the “World’s Happiest Cake” (recipe below) for papa as he often comes back from the market with cakes and other goodies for us. Plus it’ll be a bonus if making this for breakfast really makes him happy, as he always wakes up grumpy :p

Make a pledge to bake for someone special here and share what you have baked and hashtag  #worldbakingday on your social media platforms! Join the WBD Community on Facebook, follow the WDB on Twitter, Instagram and Google + or even pin the WBD on Pinterest! Also, check out Blue Band’s Website! Bake for someone special on #worldbakingday! It would be great to capture the moment with photos and post them on your social media accounts!


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Servings: 16 slices

Preparation time: 30 minutes Cooking time: 70 minutes


225 g Blue Band Cake & Cookie

325 g sugar

4 eggs

250g self-raising flour

100g all purpose flour

the skin of 2 limes, grated

50 g dried mango, finely chopped

50 g almond pieces

50 g desiccated coconut


Juice of 2 lemons

60 g sugar


55 g Blue Band Cake & Cookie

175 g of powdered sugar

1-2 tsp milk


  1. Grease a round baking dish (diameter 23 cm) with Blue Band Cake & Cookie, and cover with baking paper. Preheat oven to a temperature of 170 ° C.
  2. Beat Blue Band Cake & Cookie and sugar with mixer until light and fluffy. Add the eggs one by one. Add the remaining ingredients, mix well with a spatula.
  3. Pour batter into pan. Bake until cooked for 70 minutes.
  4. Remove from pan and let cool on a wire rack.


Cook the lemon juice and sugar until boiling and the sugar dissolved. Pour onto the entire surface of the cake.


  1. Whisk Blue Band Cake & Cookie, sugar, and milk until smooth.
  2. Slice the cake horizontally into 3 pieces. sandwich the pieces together with the filling and mango puree


  1. Create glaze by mixing lemon juice with the icing sugar. Pour into the cake surface.
  2. Garnish with nuts, mango, coconut, and almonds.

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This post sponsored by Blue Band for World Baking Day but all thoughts are my own :)

Sponsored video – what tastes remind you of home?

There’s a bit of an obsession in the expat community, wherever you happen to be, about food. People obsess over food from home and are quite often willing to pay ridiculous prices to get it. The small import section at our local supermarket has salt and vinegar  crisps for 70,000rp (about £4 – I don’t miss them that much). If you’re one of those people who like marmite (or more likely vegemite if you’re in Bali because you’re probably Australian), you can expect to pay over 100,000rp for a small jar – that’s around 10 Australian dollars or about £5.

Personally, I’ve managed to get by without missing too much – I did get my family to bring over a few things the first couple of years I was here – mainly junk food. But I’m blaming that on the fact that I was pregnant.

Since then I’ve adjusted by cooking a lot more – I make my own bread now along with hummus and a load of other random things that are impossible to buy here like gravy. The one thing I do really miss every now and again is a proper roast dinner. It’s coming up to Easter now and my mum always used to make a big roast dinner on Easter Sunday and we’d usually invite a few friends over.

So I found this video in which a mother embarks on a journey to the Arctic in order to prepare her daughter a proper roast dinner quite touching. Funnily enough, I considered working in the Arctic at one point (not training Huskies though, how random is that!?)

Research from Knorr has found that 82% of people agree that the taste of some foods will remind them of their childhood so it’s not really surprising that we get so wrapped up in thinking about foods we miss from home. If we ever end up living in the UK, my kids will probably be crying for rice and tempe every day…

p.s. I’d only ever used instant gravy before I was forced to make my own but it’s actually pretty easy to make with stock cubes and flour – there are some good gravy recipes on the Knorr website

This post sponsored by Knorr but all thoughts are my own


Don’t forget the…


Are you a forgetful type of person? I didn’t used to be so bad until I had kids and developed mum brain. I remember once going to the supermarket and completely forgetting to buy any food. Also can clearly remember when Maya was a toddler and I forgot to give her dinner one night :/ I don’t know what it is about motherhood that kills your brain cells but from talking to my other friends who’ve had children, it’s definitely a widespread phenomena.

Of course forgetting you made yourself a coffee or forgetting to put salt in the bread dough (not that I’ve ever done this, ahem…) are not exactly life or death examples. When you’re leaving your home country to go and live abroad for a while, maybe forever, things you forget can have more consequences. Forgetting to give notice to your landlord or telling your bank you’ll be out of the country can cause their fair share of headaches (and I’ve had enough experience of trying to call banks from a pay phone in the mountains of Vietnam because none of my cards are working to know this)

I was actually pretty organised when it came to leaving the UK but I think this was because I’d been planning my escape for a long time. If you only have a short time to organise moving to a new country (as is the case with many expats when they’re sent to a new location for a job assignment) and there are kids involved, things get a lot more confusing.

There’s a handy emigration check list infographic on the HiFX blog that includes most of the tasks you’ll need to complete before you leave the country, listed by timeframe – things like redirecting your mail, checking your passport, cancelling insurance and even organising your leaving party! (I remembered mine as you can see from the photo above!) The list starts from 18 months before you leave, which may sound like a long time, but organising these things can take quite a while especially if you have a house to sell. Vaccinations, saving money, rehoming pets all take a long time. Also a personal tip – always allow double the time you think you need for anything to do with visas or passports.

Honestly I don’t think there’s anything major I forgot about when I left (although I did have my parents back home to sort stuff out for me!). If I were to do it again and knew I wasn’t coming back I would definitely have made better arrangements with my bank as I’ve had my cards blocked more times than I can count and I dread to think how much I’ve paid over the years in fees from drawing money on card that aren’t great for using abroad. I’d also sell more stuff – I got rid of a lot of things before I left but I still had a few boxes of precious possessions. Of course 6 years later and I don’t miss anything in those boxes and some of it is worth quite a bit of money (rare playstation games and limited edition prints). Difficult for me to ebay it from 8,000 miles away!

I’m so lucky after I left I never had one of those heart stopping moments when you realise you’ve forgotten something super important – have you?


2014 in review and New Year goals

shineMy 2014 guiding work was “grow” and I’m not sure that the year really lived up to my plans – a lot of things went really well but I also felt stagnant in some areas. We didn’t have any huge events this year – no moving house, babies being born or trips to foreign countries but I do think personally I managed to grow in terms of confidence and making decisions for my personal and professional life. I said last year that I wanted to focus more on myself this year – get my health back on track and get out without the kids and I’ve definitely achieved that.

So lets see how I did with my goals from last year:


  • Make $5,000 a month consistently – Umm, no….
  • Make at least half my income from my own businesses (not client work) – Yes! Hooray! Not making as much as I’d like yet but lets make that this year’s goal.
  • Pay off my “small” debt (which is not that small but separate from my “big” debt of student loans and bank of mum and dad mortgages) – see above. no way this was going to happen but at least it’s no worse!
  • Launch 2 new websites – yes! Not the ones I originally planned but still… I’m hoping for many more this year
  • Write an e-book – not yet.
  • Learn to drive a motorbike – YES!!! This is probably my biggest achievement from 2014 and I squeezed it right in at the end of the year. I also crashed it but I’ll leave that for another post.
  • Create a beautiful learning/playing space in our home – not quite. I did improve our existing space though.
  • Cook 12 new meals (one a month and hopefully more!) – meh. No but I did bake lots of bread and a couple of cakes. Meals coming now that I can drive myself to the supermarket!
  • Have 12  family fun days out (and hopefully more) – hmmm…. not sure?
  • Make 12 videos of the kids and our life (a la documenting delight) – ha! no.
  • Go on 12 date nights with my husband (carrying this one over from last year – we managed a few!) – I’m pretty sure we overachieved on this. We even got in a night away without the kids!
  • Visit family and friends in the UK – not yet :(
  • Fill a sketchbook with drawings – all I drew this year were cars for Kiran
  • Get up early and develop a morning routine – sort of. I did this in the last couple of months but didn’t stick to it.

I think looking back 2014 was a good year for me although it felt pretty quiet and uneventful. I weaned Kiran in June and that allowed the possibility of me leaving him overnight and getting out in the evening more without the kids (previously I would feed him to sleep). Now we leave the kids with their grandparents at least a couple of nights a month and get some alone time. We’re also getting more sleep with both kids finally sleeping through the night.

I knew my health had to be a priority last year after spending the last half of 2013 recovering from dengue and I’m glad to say I felt a lot healthier overall this year. I’ve been trying to eat better (although still some improvements to be done there) and I felt amazing when I was doing yoga every day so definitely have to get back into that.

In April I had a bit of a crisis about my work and trying to figure out what I was doing that I wrote about here. In June I ended up going all in and quitting all my regular freelance jobs to concentrate on my own projects. Things have been going ok but this year I really need to push with that and make some proper money.

My Indonesian has also improved greatly and my confidence along with it. I’m finally driving a motorbike (I’ve been saying I’m going to do this for the last 5 years) and that has also given me so much more confidence and independence.

So my 2015 word is SHINE! I have a feeling this will be a great year for us and I’m excited for this new sparkly shiny new year!

15 things for 2015:

  1. Yoga every day (even if it’s just 5 minutes)
  2. More real food, less crap and sugar
  3. Find a bahasa Indonesia teach and progress from conversational to fluent
  4. Stick to my debt repayment schedule
  5. Hit my income goals for the year (haven’t worked this out yet)
  6. Stop shouting at the kids
  7. Teach Maya to read
  8. Get up at 5am every morning (not got off to a good start with this one, haha!)
  9. Make a craft space in our spare room
  10. Visit the UK
  11. Write a book
  12. Redesign and relaunch my blog
  13. Stop being unproductive when i’m using my computer – 60% + productivity in rescuetime every week
  14. Get out of the house more – go out for coffee or lunch at least once a week
  15. Write a million words.

Hope everyone celebrated the New Year in the way they wanted (I fell asleep with the kids at about 10pm and missed everything, haha!) and I wish you all a fantastic 2015 x



Our Christmas


For some reason I was just not really feeling Christmas this year – I think maybe because my family weren’t over this time but I just couldn’t get into the spirit. It never feels very Christmassy here anyway but I didn’t even put the tree up until xmas eve. Anyway we had some old friends visiting over Christmas, which was lovely and we ended up having a nice and relaxing day at the beach club (even if I spent most of the day supervising the kids in the pool rather than talking to my friends!). I really cut down on the presents this year but the kids were thrilled with what they got. We also got 2 new kittens and I got a motorbike (!!!) (more on that later!)

Unfortunately we’ve all been so busy this year (xmas and new year coinciding with galungan and kuningan) that I failed to get our annual family xmas photo :( will have to get a new year one instead.

Hope everyone had a peaceful and happy Christmas and has a wonderful New Year x

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Tinkerlab – A hands-on guide for little inventors

2014-12-10 10.50.09Firstly I have to apologise for this post being so late as I’ve been meaning to review this book since oh… June… anyway all is not lost because if you’re in need of a last minute Christmas present for a child, parent or teacher, this is in stock at Amazon (get it in the UK here and the US here) and can be on your doorstep by xmas eve.

Now onto the book – it’s been a while since I’ve read a book that made me so excited about spending time with my children, ha! In fact the last one that I enjoyed so much was probably this one. This is not just a book of art and craft projects – I have a few of those already and they’re all wonderful but the Tinkerlab book is something special. I’ve been a fan of the Tinkerlab website for many years so I was very excited when I saw that Rachelle was publishing a book and signed up to get it straight away – I wasn’t dissapointed!

The Tinkelab book is full of art and craft projects, science experiments, parenting manual, tips for setting up and organising a creative space and some useful insights into educational theory. The projects range from the very simple (sticking stickers on paper) to complex (making a robotic drawing machine) but every one of them has potential for hours of fun and can be adapted to work for younger or older children.

Some of the other projects and ideas include:

  • Plexiglass painting
  • Foam plate prints
  • Making potions
  • Ice cream in a jar
  • Pounding nails
  • Gumdrop structures
  • Natural dyes
  • Cloud dough
  • DIY light box

Maya had a fun time flicking through and picking out which projects she wanted to do first and she has as much fun looking at the pictures as she does doing the actual activities.

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Life Without Facebook


Can you remember back to a time when we didn’t have social media? or god forbid, we didn’t have the internet at all?! I remember well, back in my teens when internet was on a dialup connection that we paid for by the hour (plus the price of the phone call) and was strictly rationed. Now we’re checking Instagram before we even get out of bed in the morning (or is that just me?)

I’ve never been one of those people who spend all day on Facebook – I found it useful for uploading my photos when I was travelling and updating my friends and family of my whereabouts (because I totally failed at travel blogging) and then of course after I had the kids it was the natural place to upload their photos so everyone so far away could watch them grow up.

In recent years I’ve been using Facebook less and less for these purposes and more as a mindless way of filling in time. I’d get distracted by random Buzzfeed articles (I actually had to temporarily block someone who was posting them constantly as it was ruining my productivity) and I’d use Facebook as a way of procrastinating when i should be working or doing something else.

I’d randomly click onto it without even noticing what I was doing and just keep scrolling and clicking mindlessly. Still I didn’t feel like Facebook was a huge problem until I installed RescueTime and realised just how much time every week I was wasting there.

Still, I tried to limit my time there halfheartedly but didn’t really see it was a huge problem. Facebook fulfils its entertainment and social purposes and there’s nothing wrong with that right?

Then at some point 2 or 3 months ago, I realised that Facebook had become poison for me. There were about 3 separate instances in one day or people saying stupid things that wound me up and sucked me in and made me stressed. I spent 10 minutes crafting a response to one of these people, telling them how wrong they were and then i just thought “what am I doing? why am I bothering wasting my time on this?” So I quit – cold turkey.

This was much easier than I thought – quitting is much easier than trying to limit your time. The first month I was terrified to go on at all and when I accidentally followed a link that ended up on Facebook, I’d click off again quickly. Now I’m a little more relaxed – I’ve checked in occasionally to update my blog page and check a couple of things and it’s clear that the hold on me it once had has gone – I don’t sit there for hours but even after reading for a couple of minutes I can see how easy it would be to get sucked in.

I still don’t feel like this is the ideal solution as I know I’m missing out on news and events – birthdays, babies being born etc. but I still have no wish to even load up the site… I’m thinking I might do a huge cull and block the majority of status updates and then maybe check once a week?

I’m also not eschewing social media entirely – Instagram is my network of choice at the moment, though I browse more than I post. Twitter is too frantic and I don’t really use the others.

How many hours do you use Facebook a week? Try a Facebook fast – the results may surprise you!

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