Kiran – drooly chin
Maya – exploring the garden
I’m not very into Valentines day in general but I think it is nice to mark the occasion if you have a significant other. I’ve pretty much given up on Made for birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries and any other occasion now. For one he is HOPELESS at remembering dates. This isn’t entirely his fault as the Balinese calendar is different but it’s also down to him being a useless man :p Also after the last time I got upset about him completely forgetting or failing to get me a present or showing so little enthusiasm for the presents I got him, we had a talk and I realised I may as well give up. Made just doesn’t get presents. They have no meaning to him and while he likes getting new things as much as anyone else, it’s no different in his mind from buying it himself. He prefers to show he cares in little every day ways rather than making a big fuss a few times a year. Fair enough. So after this conversation and deciding that after 4 years he was obviously not going to change, I’ve given up on the idea of presents. We still go out for meals (again he has no interest but he does it for me) but I’ve basically decided I’m going to have to just spoil myself on my birthday etc.
So I certainly wasn’t expecting anything for Valentines day. Bless him, this is about as romantic Made gets – a gift box with 2 kitkats and a card (still in the plastic with nothing written inside) that he got maya to give me when she came back to school (although according to Maya it was her birthday present because apparently every day is Maya’s birthday!)
I really wasn’t fussed about Valentines day this year so we didn’t bother going for dinner or doing anything special but this little hopeless hilarious gift made me feel warm and fuzzy all day. Plus we got given a bottle of homemade wine from our neighbour (wine is like liquid gold here) – not a bad day at all!
I really liked your post today! Personally, I never got the big hype over Valentines day. I mean, a bunch of chocolate, a giant toy dog with a heart, tons of flowers – they’re nice but they seem pretty impersonal. It was refreshing when I found my husband, and he went out of his way to find something I’d really like. A box of chocolates is nice but only lasts a little while. When he went out and got a specific game I’d been pining for (and talking myself out of getting) I was touched to see that he’d been listening to me. But I’d be happy with nothing because we celebrate our love every day. I do kind of want a giant toy dog, though. Bet it’s cozy.
Now the day after Valentines is a fabulous holiday. It’s discount chocolate day! The best day of the year!
And as a fellow recipient of the blank greeting card from time to time, it’s always adorable with just a bit of pathetic thrown in to make me love him more.
Waiiiiit a minute, are we married to the same dude????
Guess who wished my Happy Valentines yesterday. My kid’s nanny. ONLY my kid’s nanny. My husband worked till 10 PM and then went out to drink beer with his chef friends. (Chefs do NOT love valentines day, fyi).
Also, I kind of buy myself my own xmas / birthday presents or tell him specifically what I want.
He cares not one fig what I get him for his birthday / christmas.
That’s nice that your husband makes so much effort. Anyway I am trying to simplify this year so I really don’t want silly presents anyway (at least that’s what I keep telling myself :p)
Oh I can totally understand why your husband would not be a fan of Valentine’s day, being a chef. I guess he deserves a few drinks after working so hard.
I think maybe it’s just a general man thing to not care about presents? I feel so much better after deciding not to care about it though. And I get to buy myself stuff that I actually want! Woohoo!