Can you remember back to a time when we didn’t have social media? or god forbid, we didn’t have the internet at all?! I remember well, back in my teens when internet was on a dialup connection that we paid for by the hour (plus the price of the phone call) and was strictly rationed. Now we’re checking Instagram before we even get out of bed in the morning (or is that just me?)
I’ve never been one of those people who spend all day on Facebook – I found it useful for uploading my photos when I was travelling and updating my friends and family of my whereabouts (because I totally failed at travel blogging) and then of course after I had the kids it was the natural place to upload their photos so everyone so far away could watch them grow up.
In recent years I’ve been using Facebook less and less for these purposes and more as a mindless way of filling in time. I’d get distracted by random Buzzfeed articles (I actually had to temporarily block someone who was posting them constantly as it was ruining my productivity) and I’d use Facebook as a way of procrastinating when i should be working or doing something else.
I’d randomly click onto it without even noticing what I was doing and just keep scrolling and clicking mindlessly. Still I didn’t feel like Facebook was a huge problem until I installed RescueTime and realised just how much time every week I was wasting there.
Still, I tried to limit my time there halfheartedly but didn’t really see it was a huge problem. Facebook fulfils its entertainment and social purposes and there’s nothing wrong with that right?
Then at some point 2 or 3 months ago, I realised that Facebook had become poison for me. There were about 3 separate instances in one day or people saying stupid things that wound me up and sucked me in and made me stressed. I spent 10 minutes crafting a response to one of these people, telling them how wrong they were and then i just thought “what am I doing? why am I bothering wasting my time on this?” So I quit – cold turkey.
This was much easier than I thought – quitting is much easier than trying to limit your time. The first month I was terrified to go on at all and when I accidentally followed a link that ended up on Facebook, I’d click off again quickly. Now I’m a little more relaxed – I’ve checked in occasionally to update my blog page and check a couple of things and it’s clear that the hold on me it once had has gone – I don’t sit there for hours but even after reading for a couple of minutes I can see how easy it would be to get sucked in.
I still don’t feel like this is the ideal solution as I know I’m missing out on news and events – birthdays, babies being born etc. but I still have no wish to even load up the site… I’m thinking I might do a huge cull and block the majority of status updates and then maybe check once a week?
I’m also not eschewing social media entirely – Instagram is my network of choice at the moment, though I browse more than I post. Twitter is too frantic and I don’t really use the others.
How many hours do you use Facebook a week? Try a Facebook fast – the results may surprise you!